I’ve been thinking a lot about renting and renters. The renter in my house in Albuquerque is trying to decide if she wants to renew her lease. My landlords are getting a divorce and I may have to find a new place to light. Being a landlord and being a renter are easy one day and a pain the ass the next.
This got me thinking about something that I heard both Dr. Wayne Dyer and Joe Dispenza say at the recent Hay House event Cara and I attended in Vancouver.
The idea that we let other people rent space in our heads. People at work…our lovers…our friends…our siblings…strangers (seriously!? How dumb is that?) …our parents. In some cases…like with parents…they start renting space even before we are born. And in other cases…we continue to allow tenants to have the space, long after they have packed their stuff and moved into someone else’s brain.
Most of my friends know that I have a firm policy on opinions and advice. If you are not invested in me and my life on a regular basis, you do not get an opinion on my decisions. You don’t get to weigh in. You don’t have a vote. You don’t get a voice in this one-woman supreme court. And if you are in my life regularly, that does not imply you have shown you are invested…or invested in a healthy way. So you may STILL not get a vote.
I’m excellent at upholding that rule…I’m not always terribly great at evicting folks from my brain. But I’m getting better.
Letting someone rent space in your brain is equivalent to having a running dialogue with what you THINK they would say. It’s script-writing at it’s finest because though they are not in the conversation you can totally imagine what they’d say and get caught up in the ins and outs of it. You can let someone else’s fear steal your freedom. You can let another person’s darkness steal your light. You can let their sadness, depression, or just generally bad attitude, steal your joy.
Jesus said “I have come so that you might have life and have it locked up in fear and doubt”
What he actually said was “I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” John 10:10